Most couples in the throes of parting, one or the other insists on counseling to try to put the marriage back together. Once one has decided it is over, this usually soon becomes apparent to both that this is not going to work and it is going to be a waste of time.  However, if you […]

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How to deal with your children’s anxieties over celebrating Christmas with separated parents.

By Karen Grais Meyer, MSW, LCSW
Holidays can be a time to anticipate with excitement and happiness, or with anxiety and sadness, depending on what is happening in your life and family. For children of separated and divorced parents, the holidays are often a […]

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Co-parenting is a term used to describe divorced parents parenting their children together even though they are in different households. There are MANY ways this can be done. I will not try to tell you how to parent your children. What I will tell you though, is that the more conflict there is between your […]

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By Dr. Reena Sommer
In the past when a couple divorced, a father’s role was limited to financial support and the occasional visitation with his children. Until the changes in the divorce laws during the 1970’s, this state of affairs prevailed and for the most part, was accepted as the norm. Custody battles were almost unheard […]

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In high conflict divorces, those that never seem to end, abandonment is a common factor. These days, when we see divorced spouses returning to court two or more years after the divorce process was technically completed, we inquire into their early childhood experiences, and we frequently find abandonment trauma in their family histories.
The most obvious […]

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This happens and you need to keep reassuring them you will never leave or abandon them.
That when you go out with adults it is not someone competing with them for your attention.
It is two different things, apples and oranges.
Judge Anne Kass has an article on abandonment, that shows this plays a big role in your […]

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These days, it is hard to come by an individual who does not know someone who has been divorced, or who has not been divorced themselves. In Hollywood, divorce is seemingly becoming a common occurrence, while paving the way for a society where we’re not only getting married later in life, but also searching for […]

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This touching letter was written by Rabbi Shmuley Boteach, courtesy of the Jerusalem Post, who cries out to Britney Spears and addresses important issues regarding the effects of divorce on children and our responsibilities as parents:
Dear Britney, - I’m writing to you not as a fan, because I am not that knowledgeable about your career. […]

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Every year over one million parents have to talk to their kids about divorce. For each parent, the discussions differ, but the goals of the discussions are universal: to openly and honestly reassure your child of your love.
Divorce is painful and traumatic for all involved – spouses and children alike. We all happily begin our […]

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So much research has gone into the effects of divorce on children. Some have tried to say that if you do it right, divorce will not effect the kids.
I think that is a load of self serving crap.
Divorce will effect the kids, and effect them in ways that are painful. There is no way around […]

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