Comments for Children and Divorce | Earthquake in Zipland http://www.ziplandinteractive.com An interactive computer story designed to help children cope with divorce and enhance communication. Mon, 12 May 2008 05:18:45 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.1.1 Comment on Children and Divorce Psychologist Tells It Like It Is by SJ http://www.ziplandinteractive.com/children-and-divorce-psychologist-tells-it-like-it-is/#comment-6516 SJ Thu, 13 Mar 2008 22:33:45 +0000 http://www.ziplandinteractive.com/children-and-divorce-psychologist-tells-it-like-it-is/#comment-6516 Wish is was that simple. My children were 17, 13 and 9 when the ex left. The girl he left with was 18 and she was also trying to be with our 17 year old. My ex husband married her, divorced her and remarried her. He has not helped since he left. His income has tripled with no extra support. I can't afford an attorney. My income increased by $4000.00 a year only and I am working three jobs to support my kids. Wish I had a decent Ex. Kids want nothing to do with him, and I was granted sole custody. Wish is was that simple. My children were 17, 13 and 9 when the ex left. The girl he left with was 18 and she was also trying to be with our 17 year old. My ex husband married her, divorced her and remarried her. He has not helped since he left. His income has tripled with no extra support. I can’t afford an attorney. My income increased by $4000.00 a year only and I am working three jobs to support my kids. Wish I had a decent Ex. Kids want nothing to do with him, and I was granted sole custody.

]]> Comment on Children and Divorce Psychologist Tells It Like It Is by Sophie http://www.ziplandinteractive.com/children-and-divorce-psychologist-tells-it-like-it-is/#comment-4769 Sophie Mon, 31 Dec 2007 04:09:16 +0000 http://www.ziplandinteractive.com/children-and-divorce-psychologist-tells-it-like-it-is/#comment-4769 What a great article......very informative......this type of information should be part of the divorce agreement when couples with children are getting divorced......Maybe more couples would think and act a little less selfishly when it comes to their kids' feelings instead of their own. Keep getting this kind of information out there !!! Thanks, Sophie What a great article……very informative……this type of information should be part of the divorce agreement when couples with children are getting divorced……Maybe more couples would think and act a little less selfishly when it comes to their kids’ feelings instead of their own.

Keep getting this kind of information out there !!!
Thanks,
Sophie

]]> Comment on Twelve Tips on How to Tell Your Children About Your Divorce by Children and Divorce | Earthquake in Zipland » How To Make Divorce Easier On Your Children http://www.ziplandinteractive.com/twelve-tips-on-how-to-tell-your-children-about-your-divorce/#comment-3323 Children and Divorce | Earthquake in Zipland » How To Make Divorce Easier On Your Children Sun, 18 Nov 2007 00:52:08 +0000 http://www.ziplandinteractive.com/twelve-tips-on-how-to-tell-your-children-about-your-divorce/#comment-3323 [...] telling kids about divorce,  details like choosing the right time to break the news of the divorce is hard. You need to pick [...] […] telling kids about divorce,  details like choosing the right time to break the news of the divorce is hard. You need to pick […]

]]> Comment on Marriage, Divorce, Repeat, Marriage, Divorce, Repeat by sharon k becker http://www.ziplandinteractive.com/marriage-divorce-repeat-marriage-divorce-repeat/#comment-3220 sharon k becker Tue, 13 Nov 2007 16:09:20 +0000 http://www.ziplandinteractive.com/marriage-divorce-repeat-marriage-divorce-repeat/#comment-3220 I am sorry to hear that you beleive that remarriage have a less chance in staying married . Thank you my wonderful God who is with my husband and I every day and we both have had marriage before us there is a BIG difference this time around one is we are comminted with God and we are christine and we have Jesus in our hearts and we both do cousenling with us and our children we our commited to each other and Divorce is not going to be and in our life we both are in this until jesus takes us home . To the people we are remarried I would like to tell you that as long as God is first and you both are commited you will have and everlasting marriage. God Bless Stephen and Sharon Becker I am sorry to hear that you beleive that remarriage have a less chance in staying married . Thank you my wonderful God who is with my husband and I every day and we both have had marriage before us there is a BIG difference this time around one is we are comminted with God and we are christine and we have Jesus in our hearts and we both do cousenling with us and our children we our commited to each other and Divorce is not going to be and in our life we both are in this until jesus takes us home . To the people we are remarried I would like to tell you that as long as God is first and you both are commited you will have and everlasting marriage.

God Bless
Stephen and Sharon Becker

]]> Comment on Study Shows Ritalin Use Doubles in Children of Divorce: But the Question Remains ‘Why?’ by Michelle http://www.ziplandinteractive.com/study-shows-ritalin-use-doubles-in-children-of-divorce-but-the-question-remains-why/#comment-2115 Michelle Sat, 01 Sep 2007 19:48:19 +0000 http://www.ziplandinteractive.com/study-shows-ritalin-use-doubles-in-children-of-divorce-but-the-question-remains-why/#comment-2115 I think the question of why can be easily answered. Children experience a higher level of anxiety and as such behavorial adjustment in a divorce. The tendency to see this behavior as a medical issue that needs diagnosing and hence medication stems from the children being evaluated most often by a medical doctor and not a counselor. Before any child is medicated the whole child needs to be evaluated. This includes family counseling, individual talk therapy and BOTH parents being fully involved, nurturing, supportive as the child is learning to deal with the divided life it now leads. I feel so much sympathy for children who are put on this medication because in most cases I'll bet it was unnecessarily prescribed as a way to "calm down the child" Divorce is a psychologically and emotionally unsettling time in their growth stage. Parents, please be sure that you are doing right by your child when having this treatment prescribed and that you have exhausted ALL other methods, including a mature, and collaborative parenting approach with your former spouse. I think the question of why can be easily answered. Children experience a higher level of anxiety and as such behavorial adjustment in a divorce. The tendency to see this behavior as a medical issue that needs diagnosing and hence medication stems from the children being evaluated most often by a medical doctor and not a counselor. Before any child is medicated the whole child needs to be evaluated. This includes family counseling, individual talk therapy and BOTH parents being fully involved, nurturing, supportive as the child is learning to deal with the divided life it now leads.
I feel so much sympathy for children who are put on this medication because in most cases I’ll bet it was unnecessarily prescribed as a way to “calm down the child” Divorce is a psychologically and emotionally unsettling time in their growth stage. Parents, please be sure that you are doing right by your child when having this treatment prescribed and that you have exhausted ALL other methods, including a mature, and collaborative parenting approach with your former spouse.

]]> Comment on Study Shows Ritalin Use Doubles in Children of Divorce: But the Question Remains ‘Why?’ by Jason Havard http://www.ziplandinteractive.com/study-shows-ritalin-use-doubles-in-children-of-divorce-but-the-question-remains-why/#comment-1323 Jason Havard Mon, 11 Jun 2007 21:14:05 +0000 http://www.ziplandinteractive.com/study-shows-ritalin-use-doubles-in-children-of-divorce-but-the-question-remains-why/#comment-1323 Hmmmmmmmm or maybe ADD has a genetic component and marriages between parents when one has ADD tend to end in divorce? So more children who inherited ADD come from broken homes? Hmmmmmmmm or maybe ADD has a genetic component and marriages between parents when one has ADD tend to end in divorce? So more children who inherited ADD come from broken homes?

]]> Comment on Children and Divorce Psychologist Tells It Like It Is by Kim E. Terry, LPC, NCC http://www.ziplandinteractive.com/children-and-divorce-psychologist-tells-it-like-it-is/#comment-1102 Kim E. Terry, LPC, NCC Thu, 24 May 2007 22:26:34 +0000 http://www.ziplandinteractive.com/children-and-divorce-psychologist-tells-it-like-it-is/#comment-1102 Great article! Love it! Thanks for writing it. I will share it with my clients and make sure to credit you! Please keep writing to the public and "telling it like it is!" Very sincerely, Kim Great article! Love it! Thanks for writing it. I will share it with my clients and make sure to credit you! Please keep writing to the public and “telling it like it is!”
Very sincerely,
Kim

]]> Comment on How to Save Your Child and Yourself from the Devastating Effects of PAS by Joe http://www.ziplandinteractive.com/how-to-save-your-child-and-yourself-from-the-devastating-effects-of-pas/#comment-914 Joe Fri, 11 May 2007 18:40:58 +0000 http://www.ziplandinteractive.com/how-to-save-your-child-and-yourself-from-the-devastating-effects-of-pas/#comment-914 First smart article I've seen in a while. PAS CONSULTANT & INVESTIGATOR My name is Joe I am a P.A.S. Consultant and Investigator. I mainly try and assist parents still struggling with custody. In reading your comments on a Message Board I visited I was interested in assisting. If you are seeking some solutions I might be able to help, would you like to talk with me to find out ? Best Regards, Joe First smart article I’ve seen in a while.

PAS CONSULTANT & INVESTIGATOR

My name is Joe I am a P.A.S. Consultant and Investigator.
I mainly try and assist parents still struggling with custody.

In reading your comments on a Message Board I visited I was
interested in assisting. If you are seeking some solutions
I might be able to help, would you like to talk with me to find
out ?

Best Regards,
Joe

]]> Comment on How to Save Your Child and Yourself from the Devastating Effects of PAS by jacquie randall http://www.ziplandinteractive.com/how-to-save-your-child-and-yourself-from-the-devastating-effects-of-pas/#comment-143 jacquie randall Mon, 19 Mar 2007 19:09:33 +0000 http://www.ziplandinteractive.com/how-to-save-your-child-and-yourself-from-the-devastating-effects-of-pas/#comment-143 thanks for your article. Does anyone know family therapists (not necessarily lmft--therapists who treat families) with enmeshment issues? And who also have experience evaluating for PA symptoms? In Ventura County (Calif.) or LA county? thanks for your article. Does anyone know family therapists (not necessarily lmft–therapists who treat families) with enmeshment issues? And who also have experience evaluating for PA symptoms? In Ventura County (Calif.) or LA county?

]]> Comment on A Guide for Parenting Divorce by william fiege http://www.ziplandinteractive.com/a-guide-for-parenting-divorce/#comment-119 william fiege Fri, 16 Mar 2007 15:52:06 +0000 http://www.ziplandinteractive.com/a-guide-for-parenting-divorce/#comment-119 While the marriage may have failed, it is important that the children sense at least a civil relationship between their parents. The children must maintain a relationship with both parents after a divorce, and it does no good for them to hear each parent degrading the other. While the marriage may have failed, it is important that the children sense at least a civil relationship between their parents. The children must maintain a relationship with both parents after a divorce, and it does no good for them to hear each parent degrading the other.

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