Part 11 - Self Image and Peer Group
Despite the high number of divorces and the normalization of this phenomenon, many children still speak of their loneliness, lowered self-image and shame about the situation when facing friends and teachers . These feelings are especially acute in the first period after the divorce.
In the game, the hero finds himself confronting a peer group. They invite him to play basketball but he is overwhelmed by shyness. He blushes, coughs anxiously when approached, his lips move but no sound comes out, as if he is paralyzed by shame. He turns to the oyster for help to combat the shame that is taking over him.
Her answer:
Oyster: “Listen kid, after what you’ve been through with the earthquake and all…who can BLAME you? Besides…I know the feeling… I, too, tend to CLAM up in times of crisis…”
If he decides to write about his feelings during this episode in the journal, he will receive the following answers from the “Oracle of Zipland”:
• There’s no need to feel ashamed, everyone has his own earthquakes.
• You’re not so different; everyone has his special traits: a Giraffe has a long neck; a kangaroo has his pouch, and you have a special story.
If he is able to understand the hints he arrives at a tower – and there he can receive the orb of self confidence and symbolically increase his self-confidence.
In my opinion, if the player is creative enough and overcomes all the obstacles presented by the game up to this episode and even succeeds in making all the clever moves required for him to enter the tower, his image of himself as a competent person will improve greatly.
However, we did not stop here. The telescope episode that follows is designed to provide perspective on past present and future possibilities in life.
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[36] Ayalon, O.,& Flasher, A. (1999).Children & Divorce Chain Reaction. Tel Aviv: Nord
